Abstract
This study advances the theorisation of sex in tourism by conceptualising extradyadic sex as a form of touristic leisure among queer men using Grindr during travel. Drawing on 26 in-depth interviews, it identifies two types of sexual non-monogamy – monogamish and open – to examine how mobility, anonymity, and digital mediation enables situational disinhibition and the negotiation of intimacy, pleasure, and relational ethics beyond monogamous norms. Grindr functions as a socio-sexual infrastructure through which extradyadic encounters generate emotional (un)availability and resistance as well as risk, escapism, and validation. Framing extradyadic sex in tourism as a digital-situational assemblage of intimacy moves tourism scholarship beyond the monogamy-promiscuity binary, revealing how queer tourists reconfigure intimacy, desire, and wellbeing through travel.